How Unresolved Guilt Can Cause Insomnia
Many people can’t sleep at night not without knowing that unresolved guilt can cause insomnia. They become anxious but don’t know how to seek treatment to find out the root cause.
Teh Healinghart Centre Clinical Psychologist, Ms. Doreen Teh shares this insightful story.
No one is perfect.
We all have made our fair share of mistakes in life. There are things we have done that still ‘haunts’ us.
Insomnia and Sleepless Nights
We may not realize how our past can affect us until we experience repeated negative consequences such as disturbed or poor quality sleep.
Many people have trouble falling asleep or get enough rest.
They may sleep fitfully, tossing and turning at night, and wake up feeling tired and feel like they haven’t slept at all.
Usually, they will see their general physician when they feel fatigued, and the lack of sleep has affected their work or other aspects of life.
They may start taking sleeping pills and become dependent on sleeping pills, which eventually lose their effectiveness.
Insomnia Caused by Unresolved Guilt
As insomnia sets in, the sufferers often felt anxious at bedtime when they walked into their bedroom.
Some may have tried many other ways to help themselves relax or sleep but have been unsuccessful.
For this group of people, they may become extremely concern about their health.
A few them may become somewhat paranoid and believe they have some major health issues or serious illness.
Several years ago, I saw an elderly gentleman who confessed that he had seen many doctors and specialists to no avail. He still could not sleep.
After the First Healing Session for Unresolved Guilt
In our 1st session, he shared he could not forget something embarrassing he had done as a curious and cheeky kid. It excited him whenever he successfully took something and did not get caught.
It could be a pencil or an eraser or small items. He liked the adrenaline rush and overtime; he took bigger items.
Now in his twilight years, as he goes down ‘memory lane’, he felt ashamed and guilty for the ‘wrongs’ he had done.
I reminded him; it was never too late to apologize and ask for forgiveness.
Even if the person we had wronged is not in front of us, or willing to forgive, so long as we sincerely repent and ask for forgiveness, we can still enjoy this ‘letting go’ of our negative past.
No one is perfect.
We all have done wrong things in our lives. In his case, it was clear he did not intentionally cause pain or harm to anyone or anything.
He can start this process by forgiving himself first.
Once he started forgiving himself, he started to call upon those whom he felt he may have hurt and asked for their forgiveness.
It is important to remember; It is not as important if the other forgives us.
What matters most is we do what we can on our part? Leave the response to the other person!
At the next session, he was beaming and told me he had already felt better after our 1st session, and he started to practice the process of forgiveness.
Voila! He could sleep again and improve his mental health.
In the 4th session, he gladly informed me, he did not need to return… the guilty culprit was gone!